It’s the 18th December. Which means that in one week’s time it’ll be Christmas, and in just under a fortnight we’ll be at the start of a whole new year.
Unsurprisingly, when you work in the fitness industry, January is usually your busiest period. It’s a month filled with ambition, epiphany- and expensive gym memberships that will (more often than not) get left unused.
I actually love goal-setting and plan-making, and January is as good a time as any to set that in motion. However, New Year’s resolutions are fundamentally unsuccessful because people set goals that they don’t actually care about for the sole reason that “it’s New Years”.
Which, guys, isn’t a solid reason for doing anything. Setting a goal “just because it’s New Years” is quite frankly, a pathway to failure. Albeit one that lots of people take. It’s a result of a load of external pressure to look a certain way and lead a certain life.
People do things for the wrong reasons all the time of course; not exclusively to January. You agree to come into work on your day off because your colleague just can’t finish that project without you. You agree to go out for those drinks even though you’d really rather get an early night because you don’t want to seem boring or unsociable. You agree to give your friend a lift somewhere because you said yes before you’d even considered the possibility that no could also be a viable answer.
New Year’s resolutions are essentially the epitome of this. And they usually revolve around health and fitness. We compile never ending lists for ourselves pretending it’s for the good of our ‘wellbeing’; go to the gym 5 times a week, stop smoking, lose weight, drink less, eat less sugar. Clearly this approach is completely unsustainable as you simply spread yourself too thin. You drive yourself into the ground. Ultimately, of course, this doesn’t make you happy and it certainly doesn’t make you a better person.
That’s why when Pretty Little Thing asked me to write a post for their Be the Best You Wanna Be campaign, I didn’t even need to think about it.
Be the Best You Wanna Be
Because I think it’s about time we gave ourselves a break.
Being the best you wanna be is about doing things for the right reasons. It’s about setting a goal that you can whole-heartedly chase after- because you genuinely want it to happen.
Do you want to quit sugar because you’re curious and you want to see if it makes you more energised- or because you read a magazine article that said sugar is bad? Do you want to lose weight because you think it’d make you healthier, happier and more confident- or because you overheard someone say that the dress size your wear is “too big”. Do you want to go to the gym 5 times a week because you LOVE lifting and you’re desperate to smash that deadlift PB- or because that girl at work says she goes 5 times a week and makes you feel bad in the office?
Seriously though. Just because your favourite Instagram idol uses the hashtag “#plantbased” doesn’t meant that you have to sacrifice the fact that you make an awesome lasagne. BUT if you fancy trying out a vegetarian diet- even for a couple of days a week- for your own personal health/ethical reasons, then that’s a different story entirely.
Be specific about what you want, and be sure of the reason why.
The reason you set a goal might seem small and insignificant – but actually the difference it makes to your approach to tackling it AND the likelihood that you’ll commit to it is exponential.
Being the Best You Wanna Be is also about finding that all-important balance.
Think about it. If you’re constantly chasing after something, soon enough, you’re going to fatigue. If you’re constantly spinning plates, soon enough you’re gonna miss one. And then they’ll all come crashing down. You can only be your best you if you give yourself the rest and the treats and the downtime that allow you to keep going and focus on what you really want. Don’t be afraid to ask people for favours and certainly don’t be afraid to say no once in a while.
So before you start compiling a never ending list of New Year’s resolutions this year- stop. Take a breath. Think about the person you want to be and the life you want to lead. Forget about what other people are doing and think (honestly) to yourself, what can I do to make me happy? What can I do to make me the best version of myself?
How can I become the best that I want to be?
I received the featured outfits from Pretty Little Thing in exchange for this post. As ever, all opinions are a) true and b) my own. Life’s too short to speak other people’s words.